Our Year in Review (2012): Storm & Rainbows
Greetings to all of our dearly loved family and friends:
This
has been a year of lessons, uncertainty, gratitude, excitement and heartbreak.
I usually try to avoid anything negative in my Christmas letters; however, the
reality is that this year has been full of storms for us. On the other hand
before, after and even during the storms, we received beautiful rainbows.
For
over 30 thirty years I have written a Christmas letter and mailed between 80
and 100 cards to our family and friends. It was a tradition that I
felt strongly about doing. In fact, I embarrassed our children several years in
a row by making their dental checkups in November and writing out my
cards while waiting for them. But hey, with five kids… I
was there for the better part of the day so I made use of the time! Last year I
got the letter written and all my cards signed and ready to be mailed. They are
still sitting in the box. That was when Lyle first became ill and was hospitalized.
After feeling guilty for the better part of the year, I realized that I still
had all of my friends and not one person called, emailed or ‘unfriended’ me
because they didn’t get my annual letter and card. It liberated me. This year
I purposefully chose to not do cards and instead used the cost of cards, paper,
ink and postage to have my grandsons take on a second needy family and purchase
Christmas gifts for them. Every year we ask for names of a mom and two children
to buy gifts for. The boys love to go shopping for them and then we make a big
deal about delivering them to our ‘middle woman’, Shelley Morris (CEO of the
Cridge Centre for the Family). An important part of this tradition is to remain
anonymous. The boys and I enjoy doing it so we doubled our fun this year with a
second family. Having said that… I really missed doing the letter. My
daughter, Dale suggested that I write it anyway and post it on Facebook and
email it to others. So here it is!
Sam
and Greyson…There
is no keeping up with these two boys. They are growing by leaps and bounds. They have both completed their first leg of
gymnastics and absolutely loved it. They also did their first level in
Pedalheads, a bike safety camp, and are looking forward to attending the next
level during the summer of 2013. The
boys have this love/hate relationship. They hate to be away from one another
for more than a day but when they get together they erupt into brother-like behaviour…
sometimes hugging and kissing each other and sometimes trying to show the other
who is the boss! They DO love to team up in the ‘mischief’ department too and I
have to admit that when they do we are powerless!!!
Peanut
butter, peanut butter
It’s
good for your sister and it’s good for your brother,
The
only thing about peanut butter…
Is
you gotta unstick it one way or the other …
(at
this point you put your finger inside your cheek and make a popping sound).
One
day as I sang it for Greyson while he ate his peanut butter sandwich, when I
got to the line… The only thing about
peanut butter is… he interrupted me and sang without missing a beat… “It isn’t good for Vivian!” This picture
is of Greyson with the gingerbread house he built this year. He usually does a
gingerbread train; however, this year he wanted to be like his cousin and do a
house. Greyson went to Vancouver with
his dad for Christmas this year and was excited when he called to tell us about
the video game he got.
Myriah and Kelly… Myriah and Kelly have been through a lot these past few years. This year Myriah suffered two miscarriages with one being a set of twins. These events were heartbreaking and life-altering all at the same time. Amidst the tears they found strength in one another and as a family. We are ecstatic to announce that Myriah is pregnant again and due on April 26, 2013. There were a few bumps at the beginning and some concerns, but baby and mom are doing well and we are all looking forward to meeting the new addition to our family next spring. Special thanks goes to her doctor for adding a specialized blood test (Russell’s Viper Venom) to a requisition after she lost the twins. It was discovered that she has Hughes Syndrome (blood clotting disorder) and seemingly the reason for the miscarriages. For this pregnancy he put her on Heparin injections daily until about 20 weeks and this averted any problems. We are all so grateful!
Myriah
continues to work in real estate and Kelly with Coast Capital. Myriah has hung
on during the slump and happy to have seen a few sales recently. However, she
would be really excited to see things pick up before baby arrives. Kelly has
been ‘awing’ the powers-to-be at his job with the work he is doing. He really
enjoys working for them and they appreciate having him on their team as well.
Dale and Shannon… let’s start with Dale. She too has endured significant challenges this year. The foremost being she ended her marriage. Dale and Greyson moved home with us in late October and while it has been a joy for me to have them with us, it wasn’t what she expected to be doing when the year began. It was not an easy decision for her and it has been heartbreaking for everyone involved. Nonetheless, she has been a trooper and doing her best to move forward. The rainbow in all of this is that both Dale and Russ (and the rest of us) have kept the focus on what is best for Greyson. Dale and Russ remain on friendly terms with one another and we are on good terms with Russ too. This has most certainly helped Greyson to adjust to the new living arrangements. He looks forward to spending a few days a week with Russ and as parents they participate in joint events that he would like them to be at.
Dale
has officially left real estate and in April began working full-time at
Bayshore Home Health. She has worked for them on the side for about five years,
so it wasn’t a complete new start for her. She enjoys her job and works with a
great team. We wish her happiness and
success in the coming year. And I want
to assure her… she won’t have to live
with her mom forever.
Shannon
continues to work as a paramedic and live in our suite downstairs. She enjoyed
a long vacation in England this year with her mom. She was joined by a
girlfriend part way through the trip and enjoyed traveling to Ireland with her
as well. Greyson was very excited to hear that she was spending a night in a
castle!
Shannon
also continues to volunteer with Search and Rescue. Unfortunately a training
exercise resulted in her injuring a finger quite extensively and she was off
work for several months. It wasn’t exactly what she needed given the trip she
had planned but it did take a long time to heal. She loves her job as a paramedic, but this
too has posed its challenges due to the political landscape in BC. Like others
though, she does her job with pride and keeps her focus on patient care.
Shannon’s life is very busy and it’s funny how we all live in the same house
and can go days (weeks even!) without seeing one another… do I sound like a
complaining (stand-in) mom???
Me…
well, this is a year of lessons for me. I have had to learn to let go of people
and things who/which no longer serve me in my life. It wasn’t easy but
sometimes you just can’t fix things. I have learned to take things one day at a
time and to not strap myself with the ‘I should do this or I should do that’
because for the most part I’ve been too exhausted to keep up with the pace I
established for myself many years ago. I did my best to keep writing my blog
and working on my book but by the end of March, I literally hit the wall. Of
course, because my work as a counsellor is in grief and loss and all that I
write about is grief and loss, I eventually came to the point in the road that
I had to step away from the writing. This isn’t easy for me and for the most
part, disappointing. But even I knew that I couldn’t walk the path of grief in
real time and write about it simultaneously. I am now beginning to dabble in
the writing side again and feel a tug to get back at it. My hope is 2013 will
allow for some of that to come to the forefront in my life again. I did indulge
myself with taking cake decorating courses as they are held literally three
minutes from our home. I did quite well and look forward to dazzling others
with my creations!
For
the most part, I have been well. However, I have had significant flare-ups with
osteoarthritis and psoriatic arthritis due to stress. I had one injection in
November that lasted for one month – it should have lasted for three months. I
felt the best that I had since Lyle became ill. Weekly injections may be in the
near future for me but I am going to try a few other things first like cutting
out dairy and wheat.
Danny (Gerry’s brother) continues to live in Myriah and Kelly’s basement suite. He is working at Thrifty’s and enjoying the team there. Danny attended the Breese-Simon reunion this past summer and seemed to enjoy catching up with his cousins and aunts and uncles.
We
wish you and your family a very special and happy holiday season. Take care of yourselves and your loved
ones. We wish you a bright and cheery New Year and
many blessings between this Christmas and the next. God Bless.
With
Love,
Lyle, Janelle and Family!
Lyle, Janelle and Family!