Group sessions provide an opportunity to socialize; however, that is not the goal of the group. It is okay to share a laugh and lighten up the mood at times, but only when appropriate. Again laughter and developing a sense of humour is not the goal of the group.
Initially, participants may find Sarah the Socializer fun and joyful to be around, but this ‘happy no matter what’ persona is wearing on those are trying to do the work of mourning.
Initially, participants may find Sarah the Socializer fun and joyful to be around, but this ‘happy no matter what’ persona is wearing on those are trying to do the work of mourning.
If you recognize a "Sarah the Socializer" in your group, there are gentle ways to intervene. If you feel awkward about approaching her, then speak with the facilitator. They are there to support you and to ensure all group members have a meaningful, positive experience.
Sarah the Socializer
~ Dr. Alan Wolfelt
Sarah’s goal is to keep the group from getting too serious about anything. The problem here, of course, is that grief will bring about serious, thoughtful, painful discussions. Sarah may see the group as an opportunity to be with other people and socialize in a fun way. Obviously, her expectations are different than the group’s. Sarah may laugh when everyone else is sad or inappropriate comments to distract the group from the work at hand.
Appropriate ways to intervene: First, understand that many people protect themselves from getting hurt by trying to stay in a social mode or be humorous. Try well-timed, sensitive comments like, “I notice that sometimes you laugh when others are sad. How do you understand that about yourself?” Or, “When I see you laugh like that, I wonder what you are feeling?” Some Sarahs will lack insight into their use of socializing while others will appreciate your efforts to help them.
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